Category Archives: Sam

Fallacy of the slipped bike chain:

I tell people that I used to be socially abysmal. And it’s true that I was ostracized, bullied, and heavily disliked as a kid. It’s also true that I taught myself social skills by paying close attention to subtext, and … Continue reading

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Conflict

Eloise and I have all sorts of complicated conflict resolution norms: – You aren’t allowed to criticize people’s preferences, only their actions. – If someone is crying, you have to console them before anything else even if you think they are … Continue reading

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Honesty

I’m against honesty fundamentalism—the idea that lying is always immoral. (Now if I wanted to make my life easy, I’d just talk about lying to save lives. But I don’t want to make my life easy.) Here are two considerations … Continue reading

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Jewishness and Gender

When I get asked, “Sam are you Jewish?” I often go, “Do you mean culturally, religiously, or genetically?” Why? Because I’m a pedant, but also because my answer depends on what the person wants to know. – I’m somewhat culturally … Continue reading

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Talking

I hate when people say, “The problem with politics is there is too much talking and not enough action.” It’s too safe. It doesn’t commit the person to any particular course of action. Specific proposals might be controversial, but “doing … Continue reading

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On Cheating

There are hedonic utilitarians who think there is nothing morally wrong with an act if no one is hurt by it. If two such hedonic utilitarians were married, they couldn’t really object to each other cheating as long as thorough … Continue reading

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Typical Gender Fallacy

The “typical mind fallacy” is when you incorrectly generalize from your own experience—it’s assuming people are more similar to you than they actually are. If I said, “I like the color green, therefore everyone likes the color green,” that would … Continue reading

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